Keeping "mum"

if it's one thing i learnt from working... is:

1. keep your opinions to yourself; and
2. your complains, sealed and locked up in a box, hidden somewhere in the great wide ocean. lose the map in the process.

never ever tell anyone anything, unless you trust that person with your whole life. more so, when that something has got many things to do with your work / company / boss(es). consequences of the stupidity to tell your problems to an untrustworthy party or even to the management, would mean termination of your position.

recently, a very similar incident happen in my life, not to me as per say but around me.

she told another person about her dislikes and complains about others around her, even sort of brainwashed that 2nd person to be able to go up to management level to confront them and stating the facts. management could not tolerate this behaviour and decided to eliminate "the cause" of these politics. this case is pending conclusion as the last i heard, she requested for reinstatement and management is reconsidering.

the thing is, we all have problems at work, whether we admit it or not. and we somehow would dislike a certain someone at some point of time. and i can so guarantee that we complain about bad management ALL the time. people find it easier to blame others than to blame themselves. i, for one, would be the 1st to admit this fact. we find comfort in consulting people whom we trust (even if it's not with our life), and just release the stress and tension. and it does give some relief to be able to find someone who shares the same point of view with you. the problem is, you would not know how fake (or real) this person is, until it's too late. we consult and complain to others, in hopes that it would just stay with that person we went to.

sometimes we do this burst of frustration, in the heat of the moment and it'll just blow away. sometimes we DO mean the things we say. sometimes we may accidentally leaked some p&c information. sometimes we may have spoken too loud. all in all, we hope that in these instances, it would not cause us our job. but unfortunately for this person i know, she spoke a little too much and was conscious of her surroundings.

no matter how true the complain we have or how the facts are laid out, we cannot just assume (making an ASS out of U and Me) that everyone knows. and even though it seems like everyone knows, there is a reason why nothing is being done. sometimes, somethings are better left untouched / unopened / unaddressed. taking into consideration that we only bitch about these things outside office's walls and even though it's repeated bitchings, nothing is being done to rectify it, one should have already known that those bitchings are sensitive issues, not to be addressed out in the open and more so, in front of management. BUT some people are just SO bad at reading hints. *sigh*

solution: KEEP "MUM"

Another day at the office

it's officially a public holiday for my state, as today's my Sultan's birthday. so what the hell am i still in the office for? because it's a workday for me and some of my colleagues. 11 of us, to be exact. luckily, we get an additional day off. if not, "Protest", here i come.

yesterday, i was at a Go Red event. the ambassador of Go Red Malaysia is YABhg Datin Paduka Seri Rosmah Mansor, Malaysia' Deputy Prime Minister's wife. she's so "cute" looking and she has a knick for jokes as well. yesterday, also being her birthday, she was about 45 minutes late for the event. but she was gracious enough to apologize and say that if we were to blame, it should be to the Batik Club as they insisted to spend her to a scrumptious birthday lunch (laughs).

this event was basically to launch Go Red in Malaysia. Go Red Malaysia is an association owned by the NGOs. Go Red for Women in Malaysia is a nationwide campaign to create awareness of heart disease, the No. 1 killer of Malaysia women. Red color symbolises passion and energy of women to fight against heart disease which is preventive. every 10th December is National Go Red Day. everyone is encouraged to wear Red on this one single day to support this movement. there is Go Red all around the world. Go Red America's ambassador is none other than President Bush's wife, Laura Bush.

all in all, the launch was pretty much a success. they are making a name in Malaysia, like how Go Red in America is doing. in hopes that Malaysian women would take more care of their hearts. it was astonishing to find out the figures that women die of heart diseases more than of ALL the cancers combined(!)

ok, the fact is, women should have balanced diet, exercise and don't smoke. all of which, i have not been abiding to. perhaps i should review my life(?) perhaps...

Event of the Year

I just sent an email to my current colleagues and some of my ex-colleagues as well as friends for a Christmas Party at my neighbour's house, which also happens to be ex-collagues of mine. Seeing as we work almost 365 days a year, I think we all long for this much-needed-break. Hopefully the turn out would be great and everyone would have a blast.

Though I must say that I was a bit disappointed that after sending the email out, I realised that the RSVP part was system-deleted. No wonder everyone was asking when they should get back to me. Didn't help that I was a bit pissed-off that no one reads emails throughoutly to realise I've already inserted the RSVP date and sent a pretty nasty reply. Oops... My Bad! Hehehe... But don't kill the Santarina....

Merry (early) Christmas y'all!

XOXO
ms3Gem

What the hell am I doin here?

it's a sunday afternoon and i'm sitting in front of my pc, at the office. though i came back at my own free-will, i can't help but think that i have so much to do, so little time and so underpaid. i have to say that i love my job but sometimes, i wish the floor under me would just swallow me whole and take me away from this world for a couple of days.

anyways, went to Zouk last night. FEMALE was having a bash for the 50 Gorgeous people. it was pretty boring at first, with all that waiting for the event to start. it was suppose to start at 8pm but it didn't until close to 9pm. once the party started, the stage heated up with 50 of the most Gorgeous people for 2006. the event was emceed by Channel [V] VJs Sarah Tan and Dominic Lau, many thought that THEY should be included in the Gorgeous people. the most Gorgeous man title was won by contestant #7 Justin Chan and the most Gorgeous female was #47's Jasvinder Gill.

that aside, the night was full of suprises for me as well. as i have not been out in the "scene" of late, it was my 1st time of late night at a club in almost a year.

while i was looking at the 50 Gorgeous on the big screen, suddenly #29 caught my eye. his name is Lord Scott, a name i will never forget because when we were younger, i used to tease him by always calling him "m'lord". wow... he certainly has grown. he used to be my direct neighbour and he hung out at my house pretty often because my brother was the same age as him and they went to the same school. i told this to Pinky, GG and Nic. Pinky and Nic commented that i should know Scott's sister, Fiona since i know him. but when i met her that night, i could not recognize her. afterall, it was only Scott who came over to my house and my family was not that close to the rest of Scott's family. but times have been good to Scott, as from what i can see. from a vulnerable boy to a gorgeous hunk!

i got to Zouk not too long when i got a call, seems my pen-pal of 9 years was there too and he spotted me. he came over and we catched up. the last i saw him was a year ago, during my Christmas party. he asked if i was gonna have another one this year (still thinking about it).

5 minutes after my pen-pal went back to his table, i felt a finger brush across my back, and i was about to turn round to scream at the pervert when i saw this tiny little girl who was one of my brother's ex-girlfriend. i sitll adore this little girl because she really has such sweet-mouth and she's just so cute. the only way i have been keeping up with her life is through www.multiply.com. but seeing her after 3-4 years was great and it was also great to see she has moved on and very happy about it too.

half an hour after that, i received another call, this time, i just stared at my phone because i could not believe that this fella was calling me. ever since we left collage, we have not kept in contact at all. after staring in disbelief at my phone for 2 seconds, i finally picked up and it was confirmed it was him. he said he is at Zouk too and i hurried over to meet him. i brought my whole gang (all from the same collage and class) and we were reunited, just like the old days. we chatted and parted to join the happenings on stage.

there were a 3 games that the emcees were suppose to get the audience to join in and play. the 1st was "name that song" and the forfeit was for the rest of the contestants to spell the singer's name with their ass. 2nd game was to get 10 audience on stage to pick 1 Gorgeous of an opposite sex as a partner and design a t-shirt for them. quite interesting designs were created. 3rd game was "treasure hunt", where 5 contestant were given 5 items to find in the crowd and the 1st person to complete would win a Samsung mobile phone (can't remember the model). and guess who won it? none other than Kenny Sia. i was so shocked to see him live. Pinky, GG n me were screaming our lungs out when he went on stage. quite obviously we were avid readers of his blog. i saw him outside after the event but didn't dare go up to him. bad enough, he would have encountered many cheesy pick-up lines in his life since he became a some-what celebrity, i didn't want to be added to that list.

the night ended, but i had loads of fun... with loads of suprises. Note To Self: i should do this once awhile.

*reality* back to work... still alone in a big ol' office with work piled. *sigh*