Keeping "mum"

if it's one thing i learnt from working... is:

1. keep your opinions to yourself; and
2. your complains, sealed and locked up in a box, hidden somewhere in the great wide ocean. lose the map in the process.

never ever tell anyone anything, unless you trust that person with your whole life. more so, when that something has got many things to do with your work / company / boss(es). consequences of the stupidity to tell your problems to an untrustworthy party or even to the management, would mean termination of your position.

recently, a very similar incident happen in my life, not to me as per say but around me.

she told another person about her dislikes and complains about others around her, even sort of brainwashed that 2nd person to be able to go up to management level to confront them and stating the facts. management could not tolerate this behaviour and decided to eliminate "the cause" of these politics. this case is pending conclusion as the last i heard, she requested for reinstatement and management is reconsidering.

the thing is, we all have problems at work, whether we admit it or not. and we somehow would dislike a certain someone at some point of time. and i can so guarantee that we complain about bad management ALL the time. people find it easier to blame others than to blame themselves. i, for one, would be the 1st to admit this fact. we find comfort in consulting people whom we trust (even if it's not with our life), and just release the stress and tension. and it does give some relief to be able to find someone who shares the same point of view with you. the problem is, you would not know how fake (or real) this person is, until it's too late. we consult and complain to others, in hopes that it would just stay with that person we went to.

sometimes we do this burst of frustration, in the heat of the moment and it'll just blow away. sometimes we DO mean the things we say. sometimes we may accidentally leaked some p&c information. sometimes we may have spoken too loud. all in all, we hope that in these instances, it would not cause us our job. but unfortunately for this person i know, she spoke a little too much and was conscious of her surroundings.

no matter how true the complain we have or how the facts are laid out, we cannot just assume (making an ASS out of U and Me) that everyone knows. and even though it seems like everyone knows, there is a reason why nothing is being done. sometimes, somethings are better left untouched / unopened / unaddressed. taking into consideration that we only bitch about these things outside office's walls and even though it's repeated bitchings, nothing is being done to rectify it, one should have already known that those bitchings are sensitive issues, not to be addressed out in the open and more so, in front of management. BUT some people are just SO bad at reading hints. *sigh*

solution: KEEP "MUM"